015 Single or Attached?

I have gone through 21 years of singlehood and counting. If you ask me, I do feel that I may be missing out on somethings that I could never feel unless I was attached. Trust me when I say I do not actively choose to be a single but neither do I actively go out in search for love. I would rather let nature take its course and accept what fate has arranged for me.

Recently, perhaps due to the season of love or seeing my buddies in wonderful relationships and some feeling miserable over failed attempts, I have been thinking. Do I really want to remain single or go out there and look for a girlfriend? Some say the single life has more freedom, you can do whatever you want without being answerable to anyone at any time. You do not have to devote your time towards anyone. Others say it is a blessing to know that someone cares for you and will be there for you. They say that it is only through the process of loving someone that life will find meaning and be beautiful. Well, the truth I believe lies somewhere in between. You can never compare the single life and the couple life because they are just simply as different as apples and oranges. Each has its own merits and problems. Besides, what do I really know about relationships except from other people's experience and things I see or hear? I'm not in any position to start comparing them. I think the best course of action now is for me to enjoy my singlehood while it lasts and when the time comes and I meet someone special, I can be sure I am ready for her. I should do things singles do which I may miss if I ever get attached (e.g. game, learn a hobby, have female friends...)

Conclusion? There is none. I will see what fate has in store for me come what may.

Royston
Live in the moment,
applies to both singles and couples

014 Best times, Best friends

As I look back upon my 21 years of life, it struck me that the happiest times I spent and the best friends I made were all in secondary school. I wondered why... Was it because it was my formative years and those friends around me saw me grow and helped shape me into who I am? I guess that played a large part. However, I am tempted to ask, maybe it was the lack of female distractions. Guy to guy talking always had an ease to it. I always felt more comfortable talking among guys. Then in JC and beyond, girls came into the picture. I used to think platonic friendships were easy. Guys and girls can't be that different, can they? WRONG!!! Guys and girls are simply wired differently. We have different priorities and see different things. When guys see girls or girls see guys, there are just so many things that are not said or done. Guys may not say what they really mean or try to act cool in front of girls. I am not sure what girls do but I'm sure they are different from when they are just a bunch of girls. Perhaps Life can never go back to what it used to be before girls came into the picture. Oh well... We just have to accept what comes along. I have to learn to adapt to life with species of the opposing sex, if not I would have to find a mountain to live on my own. hahahaha...

Royston
Best friends are made when there are no distractions of girls